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LIFE COACHING BY A COMPLEX QUADRIPLEGIC
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Sometimes, the most useful lessons in life come from people who have been through a few things themselves. After more than 20 years living with extreme adversity, I’ve learned that life rarely unfolds the way we expect, and that sometimes the best we can do is make sense of the mess, find a different perspective, and keep moving forward.
My experiences have taught me a great deal about loss, identity, independence, relationships, resilience, and the strange ways life can surprise us. I don’t write from the perspective of someone who has everything figured out, but as someone who understands that life can be complicated, uncomfortable, funny, unfair, and occasionally downright ridiculous.
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I combine lived experience with intellectual curiosity – or, at least, I suppose you can say this is my point of difference. I’m not interested in simply telling people what I think; I want to understand why things work, why they don’t, and whether conventional thinking (or the status quo) deserves to be challenged.
I also have a strong instinct for communication and an appreciation for the power of a well-chosen word, but underneath the writing and creativity is something more fundamental: I want things to be useful. Whether I’m talking about adversity, disability, business, relationships, writing or personal development, haha or off on some wayward rant, I’m usually looking for a way to turn an observation into something another person can actually take away and use.
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PHILOSOPHY & CURIOUSITY
There is also a seriousness behind the creativity, the ambition. My perspective has been shaped by more than two decades of living with circumstances that most people could barely imagine having to navigate – full blown quadriplegia.
Dependence, humiliation, loss, care staff (like I’m a business these days), physical restriction, mental trauma – I feel the weight.
This experience has given me a particularly nuanced understanding of adversity. I don’t romanticise it, I don’t belittle it, and I certainly don’t pretend that everything happens for a reason.
Instead, I have developed a fascination with what happens afterwards (after a catastrophic event) — how people reconstruct identity, purpose, relationships, ambition and meaning when the life they expected is no longer available to them. Oh boy, how I can relate. And, much of what I create these days is ultimately an attempt to explore that question – what happens afterwards?
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My advice column and blog are about creating a space where people can ask questions, explore ideas, share their struggles, and perhaps see things a little differently. I enjoy tackling the serious stuff, the awkward stuff, and even the downright bizarre questions that people might hesitate to ask elsewhere. I’m not here to preach, judge, or pretend there’s a simple solution to every problem. Instead, I hope to offer an honest perspective, a little encouragement, a dash of humour, and the occasional thought that makes someone stop and think. Ultimately, I write because I believe our experiences become more meaningful when we share what we’ve learned, and that sometimes, knowing someone else understands can make all the difference.
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Waddup! So, after twenty years of chronic disability a lot of people have helped me on my path. From doctors to friends, from counsellors to support staff, everyone has been so kind. And, honestly, it’s not like I feel indebted, I mean much of the help I’ve received, there hasn’t been much choice in it. Still, I’ve always wanted to give back to the world in some way. Pay it forward as they say. And as such, here we find ourselves.. Read full bio.
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An advice column written by a complex quadriplegic. After a twenty year period of struggling with extreme disability, after losing everything and fighting to reaffirm his life, Mark now has a very unique take on the world. So, with this column, the hope is that he can apply this unique perspective to whatever queries you have about your life. Also, while his niche is adversity, seriously ask anything here. The more bizarre the better.
